I am sure you also have some experience where you fought with your mum and had an unresolved resentment. Of course, you would like to forgive, but somehow it is hard to do so, maybe because you know you were right in the argument, or sometimes mum is just too much, and you feel you should be more understood by her. Or in some cases, many people were neglected by their mum at a young age; it can be because of family issues, finances or life circumstances; there are many reasons to resent, and it is not so easy to forgive and love your mum as a good child should. 

If you are looking for some perspectives and reasons to help you forgive your mum and love her more deeply, here is some food for thought you can contemplate. 

1, No one has lived without making mistakes

Humans make mistakes, I make mistakes, you make mistakes, and our parents make mistakes. So it is normal if a mother to sometimes makes mistakes to upset her children. 
 Everyone makes mistakes and deserves forgiveness and give a chance, and so do our parents. 

2, Put yourself in your mother’s shoes.

So often, when parents cannot provide love and protection in the way children need, that is because they do not know any better.

People approach situations and solve the problem based on the resources and choices they have. You never know entirely what your mum has been through, what her upbringing feels like, and their options and challenges include physical, mental and financial difficulties. They just did the best they could and the best they knew at that time. If we are put in their position, we might do much worse than they did.  Everyone, including our parents and us, lives our lives and creates relationships based on our knowledge and consciousness. If we know better, we will do better, so forgive. They just did what they knew with everything they had.

 3,  Because of your mother, you live.

I have so much love and respect for my mum. She is my inspiration and an excellent example to live my life in many deep and meaningful ways. 
However, like everyone else, sometimes we fight and misunderstand each other. I always remind myself when I would like to hold on to resentment toward my mum. 

I will leave no room for resentment. What my mother has sacrificed is more than what I can afford to pay back. Even if I sacrificed all my life, I would not be able to pay her back. She is the reason that Nang exists; she is the source of my existence. Whether or not she gives me everything she should/ I need, I am part of her; we are part of each other. Therefore, the resentment and negativity toward her are the poison I create toward myself. I commit to unconditionally forgive my mum, my family, and everybody around me.

Nang Souphaphone

Understand that because of her, you exist in this Universe and have a human experience. You have the time on earth, people and friendships, lessons, and everything you have while breathing and walking on the planet and being part of this vast Universe. It is because you have a woman called mother. 

Every element of this Universe changes, everyone and everything, including her and you. So this situation will change, her feeling will change in some way, and I trust that it will change for the better. 

We all make mistakes at some point in life. We have different challenges and hidden stories, so put yourself in your mum’s shoes. If she knows better, she will do better. 
At the end of the day, mum is a woman who does everything she can with the resources she has to create a better future for her children. 
Give unconditional forgiveness and love to your mum. Now that you know how to do better, so love her better. Love her when you still can. Life is so uncertain, time on earth is limited, and sooner or later, we all will leave this world; ensure you do not take any grudges and resentment with you.